
Episode #21
Ep. 19 - A Life That's Good for Me
For many autistic people, getting through the day can require an enormous amount of energy. Sensory overload, social expectations, masking and the pressure to fit into environments that weren’t designed for neurodivergent minds can take a toll. Out of necessity, Maja Toudal, in struggling with autism challenges, ADHD and suicidal ideation as a teen in Denmark, found that the answer isn’t learning to push harder or mask better, but understanding what takes energy, what restores it and what a good life actually looks like for different individuals. Now a psychologist, speaker, educator and advocate, Maja Toudal talks with Lindsey about her book “Energy Accounting.” By treating energy like a bank account – with experiences that act as withdrawals and others that serve as deposits – Energy Accounting offers a practical way to better understand personal limits, make intentional adjustments and protect long-term wellbeing. Their conversation goes well beyond that – encompassing myriad aspects of life that lead to stress and burnout. Maja shares her experience growing up autistic, being told by professionals not to expect friendships, relationships or a meaningful career, and ultimately rejecting the idea that being autistic meant accepting a life of suffering. Instead of trying to build a life that looked like everyone else’s, she began figuring out how to build a life that was good for her. Resources/references mentioned in this episode: Maja Toudal’s website: https://majatoudal.com/ “Energy Accounting” book: https://energyaccounting.com/ “What Your Autistic Child Wants You to Know: And How You Can Help Them”: https://www.amazon.com/What-Your-Autistic-Child-Wants-ebook/dp/B09XPFN6FD Autistic Tidbits and Tangents podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/autistic-tidbits-tangents/id1637750283

